Notice that ordinary glass of wine for dinner turns into drinking a few cups. Agree to attend an event just because there will have your favorite drink. All this is a sign that alcohol is slowly taking over your life.
However, you should know that every bad habit and addiction cannot be beaten.
People who fought or still struggle with alcohol know that with the support of family and friends, and with the help of expert or organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) they can overcome this defect.
But to help these people you must know that there are some things that they would like to tell you but they don’t know how.
Hate actions, not personality
The man who until recently was the best father or mother, sister or brother, now suddenly is someone who knows how to be aggressive and rude. Do not repress your feelings, because you only will help him to deny reality. Show how truly affect on you his behavior, but do not cast upon him with accusations and insults. Hate his actions and not him. Note that while struggling with alcohol he fights with many negative feelings.
Trapped by his weakness
Often the alcoholic feels inferior, useless and no confidence. While alcohol is to blame for these feelings, he learned that the easiest way to win is another cup of his favorite beverage. This creates a vicious circle from which he cannot go, at least not alone.
Faced with the challenge of commercial society
For a former alcoholic and ordinary walk through the city knows how to be a real problem. On every corner notice cafés and pubs; see how people are happy while drinking and having fun. On the other hand, the advertising industry constantly bombarded us with advertisements showing the positive side of alcohol.
Fear of social events
The celebration of the birthday of his son or daughter, family anniversaries and parties, holidays…. this all can be a real nightmare for someone who struggles to give up alcohol. The positive and festive atmosphere bore people, on all sides are served and drink alcohol and those moments one abstainers sweat of fear to not give in to temptation.
Passing through a phase of denial
Very often before they admit their addiction, alcoholics deny that they have a problem. Alcohol can blur their logical reasoning and hard to face reality without the help of loved ones.
They want to re-familiarize themselves
They want to know they are capable of and something good and useful. Help them realize that they possess many skills and knowledge that can be helpful to them and others. Remind them that they have a talent for sport, art, cooking and so on. It is good if with them to enroll in a course that will encourage them to develop their talent.
They are afraid to be alone
Abstainers from alcohol, often suffer from depression. They are afraid to be alone because then the negative emotions can take precedence over them and they can bow to pressure. Show them that you still enjoy their company and remind them of all the beautiful memories of the past. Reassure them that they need to you as much as you need them.
With a little love, understanding, and patience, nothing is impossible, and it is not just a phrase.